the one rule
Alive or not alive?
That is the decision. Use いる for people and animals. Use ある for objects, places, events, and ideas.
Living things
いる
People, animals, bugs, pets—things that are alive.
There is a dog. / I have a dog.
Objects & non-living things
ある
Things, buildings, plans, time, events, and abstract stuff.
ペンがある。
There is a pen. / I have a pen.
Quick memory hook: pet? person? animal? → いる. Everything else → ある.
say the full matrix
Four forms. Two verbs. Eight useful sentences.
You do not need to consciously memorize a giant rule. Practice these four time / polarity slots until the pattern comes out automatically.
Living things
いる
Objects & non-living things
ある
ペンがある。
There is a pen.ペンがない。
There is no pen.ペンがあった。
There was a pen.ペンがなかった。
There was no pen.plain-verb pattern
する: the generic casual “do.”
する is the most useful first action verb because it means “do.” Once these four forms feel automatic, you can use the same time-and-negation map with other verbs.
Casual form
する
する。
I do.した。
I did.しない。
I do not do.しなかった。
I did not do.Put a noun before it
Make real sentences.
I do work. / I work.
I worked.
I do not work.
I did not work.
The point: first master these four slots for one verb. Then carry that pattern to verbs such as
conjugation matrices
Verb groups and adjectives at a glance.
Start by recognizing the type. The four casual slots stay consistent; the stem changes by verb group. The て-form is included because it unlocks connectors, requests, and multi-action sentences.
Three verb groups
う-verbs
る-verbs
Group 1: change the final sound
For the negative, shift the final う-sound to the あ-row, then add ない:
Group 2: remove る
Drop る, then add the ending:
Two adjective patterns
い-adjectives: change the final い
な-adjectives: use だ-style endings
Before a noun, add な:
The important exception: いい
いい means “good,” but its changed forms use よ: いい → よくない / よかった / よくなかった.
core verb tenses and wants
One verb, the forms used constantly.
Use this as a compact form map. The first four are the basic casual time / polarity slots; the rest express an ongoing action or a desire.
Plain form can cover now or later.
Casual contractions
~ている → ~てる, ~ていたい → ~てたい, and ~てしまう → ~ちゃう are common in speech and casual writing.
want to do
~たい: the full “want to” set.
Attach たい to the verb’s stem to say what you want to do. Once attached, たい conjugates like an い-adjective—not like the original verb.
Build it from the stem.
Verb stem + たい makes the affirmative present form. The stem is the verb without dictionary る for Group 2 verbs, or the ます-stem for the other groups.
Conjugate it like an い-adjective.
Keep the stem, then change the ending exactly as you would with an い-adjective.
This is why
I want to go to Japan.
I wanted to go to Japan.
I do not want to go to Japan.
I did not want to go to Japan.
where it is
Use に for the location of existence.
With いる and ある, the place uses に. The thing that exists normally uses が.
There is a cat in the room.
There is a phone on the desk.
Why not で? で marks where an action happens. に marks where something exists. A cat is not “doing” existence—it is simply there.
counting things
Counters: learn the useful ones as you need them.
Japanese usually counts with a number plus a unit word, called a counter. English does a smaller version of this with “two sheets of paper,” “three pairs of shoes,” or “four cups of coffee.” You do not need a giant counter chart before you can speak.
There are three cats.
Read it as a chunk:
匹 : small animals
Use it for animals such as cats, dogs, and fish. Its sound sometimes changes next to certain numbers.
Treat these as sounds to recognize, not a phonology test. Hearing いっぴき and ろっぴき often is what makes them automatic.
Start with the counters you will reuse.
Pick up a counter when it solves a real sentence you want to say. The same small set comes back constantly in normal life.
pick one from a group
“One of…”: name the group, then the one.
To point out one item from a known group, use Xの
Animals: use 匹
one of the cats
One of the cats was big.
One of the cats had a spot. Literally: as for one cat, a spot existed.
Things: change the counter.
The group pattern stays the same; the counter changes with what is being counted.
one of the cars
One of the cars was red.
“Has” often uses existence:
when the group is already clear
Usually, the shorter version is enough.
After you have established the group, Japanese does not need to repeat
There were three cats. One was black.
There were three cats. One was big, and one was black.
particle focus
も: mark the thing you are adding.
Rather than placing a fixed Japanese word for “also,” ask what is being added to the conversation. Put も on that chunk: “X too / X also.”
My wife too has been going to the gym.
Replace は / が / を
For these basic roles, も takes their place. The noun right before it is the added thing.
My wife is going. → My wife is going too.
There is a dog. → There is a cat too.
ピザを
I ate pizza. → I ate pizza too.
Keep に / で: にも / でも
These particles still carry needed location, destination, or action-setting information, so も follows them.
ジムに
I have been going to the gym. → I have also been going to the gym.
I study at home. → I also study at cafés.
what this really means
“There is” and “I have” are the same basic pattern.
Japanese often does not need a separate verb for possession. Context handles it.
I have an older brother. Literally: an older brother exists.
I do not have time. Literally: time does not exist.
I had plans. Literally: plans existed.
connectors, time, and sentence flow
Link actions, descriptions, and ideas.
These compact patterns do most of the work when you want a sentence to move beyond one simple statement.
~て — and / then
Connect actions in a sequence.
コーヒーを
I drank coffee and worked.
~た後 / ~てから — after
~た
ご
After eating, I worked. / I ate, then worked.
Description + で / くて
Use で after nouns and な-adjectives; use くて after い-adjectives.
I am a student and Japanese. / Energetic and kind. / It was hot, so I got tired.
から / ので / けど
から: because. ので: a softer because. けど: but / though.
I will sleep because I am tired. / I will sleep because I am tired. / I am tired, but I will do my best.
Time: から / まで / までに
から = from; まで = until / up to; までに = by a deadline.
9
I studied from nine until ten. / I will return by ten.
Direction and means: に / まで / で
に marks a destination; まで is “as far as”; で can be “by means of.”
Go to school. / I went to the car. / I went to school by car.
一緒 に — together
Add it before the action to say “together.”
I ate together with my wife.
~のために — for / for the sake of
Marks purpose or benefit.
I made a Japanese omelet for my family.
core sentence patterns
The patterns that keep showing up.
These high-payoff structures appear constantly in casual conversations, media, texts, and everyday writing. Treat each one as a recognition tool: see the shape, then read what it is doing in the sentence.
~てから
Do A, then B.
コーヒーを
Make coffee, then make a sandwich.
~たら
When / once A happens…
When I finish, I will sleep.
When I get home, I will play a game.
~た後 で / その後
After… / after that.
I slept after watching a movie.
その
After that, I studied Japanese.
~ている / ~てる
Ongoing action or current state. ~てる is the casual contraction.
I am playing a game now.
I am studying.
~てくる — toward here / back here
Use it when an action or movement comes toward the speaker’s reference point.
コンビニ
I am going to the convenience store and will be back.
I am going to walk the dog and will be back.
My wife came back / returned here.
How to parse it
~たい
Want to do.
I want to go to Japan.
アニメを
I want to watch anime.
~か分 からない / ~か知 ってる
Embedded questions: a whole question becomes the thing you know or do not know.
I do not know where the cat is.
Do you know where he is?
から / で
から gives a reason. で can mark a cause or circumstance.
Because I am tired, I will sleep.
ストレスで
I did not work because of stress.
は vs が
は sets a topic or contrast. が introduces or identifies the thing.
As for the dog, it was there.
There was a dog.
Once a topic is clear, Japanese often leaves it unstated. Bring は back when the topic changes; use が when identifying new information or the subject inside an embedded / modifying clause.
Verb + noun
Plain verb forms can sit directly before a noun and describe it.
A place I want to go / food I want to eat / a movie I want to see.
~の方 が
“A is more … than B” / preference comparison.
I like dogs more.
Verb stem + 方
How to do something.
How to eat / how to use / how to read.
Useful casual chunks
High-frequency phrases worth recognizing as whole units.
そう
I think so. / I am full. / I wonder what I will eat.
casual topic marker and quotation
って: bring something up, or quote it.
This spoken marker is extremely common in casual Japanese. It is not the て-form of a verb. Think of it as a flexible, conversational “speaking of…” or as a casual quotation marker.
1. Topic: “speaking of…”
Use it when bringing up something already on your mind or gently shifting to a topic. It often feels friendlier and more conversational than a bare noun.
アニメって
Speaking of anime, do you like it?
これって
What is this?
アニメは
2. Quote words or a whole sentence
Put って after the words being said, heard, thought, or reacted to. In casual speech,
「
I heard, “It will rain tomorrow.”
I hear it will rain tomorrow.
「
I asked, “What’s that?”
simultaneous actions and time periods
Two useful ways to say “while.”
English uses while broadly. Japanese separates two ideas: doing two actions at the same time, and something happening during a period of time.
~ながら
Doing two things simultaneously.
Usually, the same person does both actions. Attach ながら to the verb’s ます-stem.
Study while listening to music.
Talk while walking.
リンゴを
Eat an apple while drinking Coke.
~
During the time that…
Use 間 to frame an activity or state as a time period. The action during that period can have a different person doing it.
While my wife was working, I played with the dog.
イサクが
While Isaac was at school, I worked.
ながら form check
Use the ます-stem, not the dictionary form.
Eat while watching a video.
More than two actions
Chain a て-form into one ながら phrase.
When several things are part of the same stretch of time, use the て-form to add an action, then use ながら for the action happening alongside the main one. This often reads more naturally than repeating ながら.
10
From 10:00, I worked while drinking coffee and watching YouTube.
Punctuation note: Japanese generally uses fewer commas than English. A comma after a time opener such as 10
diary-ready patterns
Diary patterns that make a day sound lived-in.
These are high-value ways to narrate what happened, what you noticed, what you thought, and what you want to do next. They work especially well in short casual diary entries.
だった — “was”
The past of casual だ. Compare: だ → だった; polite: です → でした.
Today was busy.
ピザは
The pizza was delicious. / It was tough.
~と思 った — “I thought…”
Put the thought before と, then say 思った.
I thought it was difficult.
I thought it was interesting. / I thought today would be tiring.
~みたい — “seems like…”
An everyday “it seems / looks like” pattern.
They look tired. / It looks like rain.
~そう — “looks…”
Use it for a visible impression: what something appears to be.
Looks sleepy. / Looks delicious. / Looks fun.
~かな — “I wonder…”
A soft, casual thought to yourself.
どこかな。 / あるかな。 /
I wonder where it is. / I wonder if it is there. / I wonder what I will eat.
気 がついたら — “before I knew it…”
For time passing without you noticing.
Before I knew it, it was already four o’clock.
久 しぶりに — “for the first time in a while”
Use it for something you have not done recently.
I ate pizza for the first time in a while.
~られた — “was able to…”
The potential form can add a quiet sense of gratitude or relief in a diary.
I was able to eat lunch with my family.
~ので / ~けど / ~し
Three useful connectors: softer because, but, and “and also.”
Because I was tired, I went to bed early.
I was tired, but I did my best.
It was hot today, and work was busy too.
~たり~たりする — “do things like…”
Lists representative actions, not an exhaustive list.
ゲームをしたり、アニメを
I played games and watched anime—things like that.
~ようと思 う — “I’m thinking of…”
A gentle way to write an intention or next step.
もっと
I am thinking of studying more Japanese.
~って言 う / ~って言 った / ~って言 ってた
Casual reported speech: says / said / had said.
My wife said she wanted to eat pizza.
My wife had said she would return at nine.
~か分 からない
An embedded question: “I do not know [question].”
I do not know where the keys are.
I do not know what time it is. / I do not know what kind of person I like.
diary time words
Diary writing formula
Seven patterns can carry most entries.
- What happened: set the timeline.
- ~だった — describe the day.
- ~と
思 った — add what you thought. - ~そう — add what you noticed.
- ~かな — add what you wondered.
- ~けど — add contrast.
- ~って
言 った — add what someone said.
Those seven patterns turn a plain event log into an actual little journal: sequence, observation, thought, uncertainty, contrast, and voice.
fast self-check
Before you speak, ask one tiny question.
- Is the thing alive? Yes → いる. No → ある.
- When? Now: いる / ある. Before: いた / あった.
- Does it exist? Yes: normal form. No: いない / ない.